How Does the U.S Government Handle Sexual Assault Abroad?

I wasn’t expecting to find this type of article about sexual violence and assault in a Cosmo magazine.

Please support your friends when they say your help is needed.  The aftermath of my own sexual assault was extremely overwhelming.  Supportive individuals along the way made a huge difference in my well-being and ability to seek legal justice.

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A Survivors Response to A Rape on Campus – Rolling Stone

Text from Elissa

Jarring were the words written in the article titled “A Rape on Campus: A Brutal Assault and Struggle for Justice at UVA”. I had to take breaks between the photos so my mind could process the reality these individuals lived through.  Below are the top ten themes that stuck in my mind as the article kept going and my heart grew dejected:

  1. Individuals using normal behaviors to mask their ill intentions resulting in betrayed trust and violation.
  2. The social price of reporting. Close friends seeing the victims going public as tantamount to group betrayal.
  3. Doubting victims, brushing the incident off, leaving the victim feeling isolated and misunderstood.
  4. Comments from others blaming the victim for potentially putting a school or organization in a bad light.
  5. Leaders who are less concerned with protecting victims than it is with protecting its reputation from scandal.
  6. Emphasis on organization or agency honor yet prestige is their downfall.
  7. “Compelling and believable” story of the victim’s reality yet betrayal once again by individuals in the justice system that portrayed itself as victim centered.
  8. Survivor resilience through the difficulties in hope to protect others… only to find out they aren’t the first victim and probably won’t be the last.
  9. Backlash, especially from those who felt the victims loyalty was broken or those who identified with or commiserated the perpetrator.
  10. At the end of the day, everyone is outraged. Outraged for different reasons.

Reading the comments that followed the article, some people chose to focus on UVA as a problem campus, a party school, or the Greek life.  Some chose to look at the Sexual Assault Misconduct on college campuses and how that attempt at justice is failing.  To me, this is a much larger problem, a cultural issue. Continue reading

Thank You Veterans who have Served with Dignity!

Truth and Justice Summit 2012

In May 2011, I volunteered with Service Women Action Network during their Truth and Justice Summit. While waiting to speak to a Senator, one of their staffers asked which branch each person served in. Marines, Navy, Air Force, Army, and then they got to me.

“I just served in the Peace Corps,” I said.

“Sandi, you say that as if it doesn’t mean something! You are one of us!” said one of the Veterans.

As Peace Corps Volunteers, we swear the same oath as the military. We serve our country in different ways and I’m very thankful for our Veterans who have served our country with dignity. Shout out to my dad, DavidandShirley Giver, who served in the Air Force and brother, Frank Giver, who served in the Marines.

(btw- that conversation inspired the name of my book “One of Us: Sex, violence, injustice.  Resilience, love, hope.”

Peace Corps: Defining Moments

Check out the Defining Moments video on youtube!

Peace Corps asked Volunteers and RPCVs to share “defining moments” from their Peace Corps Service. Although I did not submit any photos, I volunteered with the Defining Moments video team and am the first person with the red shirt which is pretty sweet.  Since I didn’t actually take the photo of the children running, I’ve decided to share a few defining photos from my service in Uganda.

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One of Us: Book Intro

One of Us: Book Cover by Erika Bilbo

Sexual exploitation knows no bounds. Its injustices do not happen to specific people, committed by one type of assailant, with precise variables leading to the same crime.  Sexual predators may use a demeanor that gets them close to their victims that goes unnoticed by others.  Individuals we would never label by their appearance traumatize our friends and members of our families.   While a few of these perpetrators are being held accountable, the majority are not.  This is not a women’s issue that only affects females. Men have also come forward with stories of abuse.  The impact of sexual assault goes beyond the primary victim to impact those around them.   This is a human rights violation that we have the power to stop.
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Visiting the Falls

Niagara Falls

I’m facing Niagara Falls – the wind and the mist and the dark and the peregrine falcons – and I’m going to stay focused on the other side.

I love waterfalls and their natural beauty.  Over the years, I’ve enjoyed trips specifically to see the water forcefully rush or trickle down, feel the mist on my face or the water between my toes, and listen to the rush or calmness of the water passing by.  I enjoy exploring their banks, reading beside them, enjoying them with good friends.  Below are a few of my favorite photos from the years.

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Friends of Fred: Success Story Indeed!

Fred brochure

Fred was recently featured in the HCG, The Specialist in Cancer Care, brochure!  Those of us who know Fred personally are extremely grateful for everyone’s financial support which allowed him to have the liver transplant and that Fred is doing well back in Uganda living life with his biological family and Peace Corps family.

Below is the insert in the brochure about Fred:

When a son gave life back to his father 45-year-old Frederick came to us with fever, jaundice and pain in the abdomen. After a series of scans, we diagnosed him with sclerosing cholangitis – a disease of the bile ducts in the liver. His son, who had just turned 18, donated a part of his liver for the surgery. After a successful twelve-and-a-half-hour long surgery, Frederick had recovered, and was able to go home with his son within nine days of surgery.”